Oh hey there mom guilt. Not really nice to see you…again.
Anyone else struggle with guilt in some shape or form like it’s some sort of rite of passage to motherhood?
How can we not when there are just so many different “hats” us moms are “supposed” to wear.
The organized mom, the healthy food mom, the make all food from scratch mom, the everything DIY mom, the do it herself mom, the I pay for a cleaner mom, the I get everything delivered mom, the always put together mom, the gym mom, the volunteer mom, etc.
A funny quote I read,
“How To Be a Mom in 2017: Make sure your children academic, emotional, psychological, mental, spiritual, physical, nutritional, and social needs are met while being careful not to over stimulate, under stimulate, improperly medicate, helicopter, or neglect them in a screen-free, processed foods-free, GMO-free, negative energy free, plastic-free, body positive, socially conscious, egalitarian but also authoritative, nurturing but fostering of independence, gentle but not overly permissive, pesticide-free two story, multilingual home preferably in a cul-de-sac with a backyard and 1.5 siblings spaced at least two years apart for proper development also don’t forget the coconut oil.
How to Be a Mom in Literally Every Generation Before Ours: Feed them sometimes.
(This is why we’re crazy!)” - Bunmi Laditan
One too many hats!
How many times I’ve felt pressured to be all these things. How many times I have felt like I’ve failed in one of these areas. Seen my mom friends excel while I flat out fail/struggle in that area. See their mom highlight real on Facebook; bring on the mom guilt.
Then I realized how in these lists where I actually excel and outside these lists where I excel.
I am a GREAT mom with specific talents and strengths. I am ME and no one else.
I am proud to be great on the academic front, planning to home school my children (not for everyone), I’m great with sensory and toddler activities (while some struggle with the mess of it all). I love the convenience of McDonalds while others would never introduce those foods (and all power to you!)
I am proud of the “hats” I wear, and I hope to one day not feel pressured to wear the others. Some “hats” are just not me and for my family. And that’s OK.
I have strengths and talents that come naturally in my motherhood journey. Once I start forcing things that are unnatural, I quickly become frustrated, defeated and exhausted.
We CAN’T do it all.
Just feed them sometimes right? Haha!
But how do I overcome the guilt?
I make daily choices.
I choose to remember my “hats” that I’m confident in and passionate about!
That’s my trick; I pick 3-4 “hats” and rock it!
Pick what I’m passionate about, what comes naturally and kill it! Do the best I can in those “hats” and be proud of my efforts. I have to give my kids the best of ME and not someone else.
They can spot the fake.
So what’s your thing? Pick your “hat” and rock it!