The Next Right Thing
Where do we sign him up for school? Should we home school, private school, or public? Who do we hire for speech therapy? What community programs should we sign up for? How can we help him to be more independent? What skills should we work on next?
These are my current thoughts, worries and should decide soon items for my four year old son.
You might not have a physical list, but a mental list of these types of things for one of your children. I look at my “mental” list, wondering what to tackle first? Overwhelmed by the fact these were not just simple things on a list, but items that required thought, deeper investigation, further talks with my husband and decisions that have to be made.
I find it very easy to get overwhelmed by these things.
What is the right decision? What if we make the wrong one?
What if we home school and then he struggles and we put him in school where all kids are established in routines, settled and made friends?
What if we hire the wrong speech therapist that doesn’t work well with our son?
What if he’s really behind and we have not taught him enough independence?
What if I am unable to teach him and he’d be better taught by someone else?
What if all my worries and concerns were all stopped by the fact that...
It’s all going to be OK.
Sometimes I want all the answers and by answers I mean the RIGHT answers. I want to be led and told the magic path of direction for my sons needs, how to raise him and help him best. Can’t someone just say, “Turn right here, pick that one, and do this?”
If only motherhood were that simple.
Wise words I once heard were, “Do the next right thing.”
It’s become my motherhood motto. I may not have all the answers for tomorrow, a week from now, or years, but what I do have is today. The knowledge of what is right for this moment, today, how I feel currently and what I can handle.
It’s easy to be stressed by our decisions and whether they will impact negatively or positively our developing kids. We might make mistakes along the way, but what I’m learning is that’s OK.
As long as my decisions for today feel right in my heart, I will take those as my path to guide my tomorrows.
So what’s the next right thing? What feels right for today? What can I handle, tackle, take on and pursue? What do I have time for, commit to, and just plain feels right?
Let’s start there; do that.
Maybe it’s not decisions you need to make about one of your kids like me? Maybe it’s something in your own life? Going back to school? Quitting your job, or stepping down from one of your commitments?
In my case; we chose to home school, we hired a speech therapist, we decided no more extra community programs for now, and to work on putting on his shoes and t-shirt independently.
That’s what I chose today.
It’s what TODAY I have time for, what I can commit to and just what feels right.
It can always change tomorrow when it feels like that’s the “next right” thing to do...
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” –Matthew 6:34
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